A Curated Life: My 30th Birthday Present to Myself

by Rachael on October 16, 2013 · 31 comments

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One of the best things about getting older, I’ve found, is that you start to know, really know what you want. For dinner, as a career, in love — everything. The fog of indecision that surrounded your 20s slowly melts away as you not only give less fucks, but give more fucks to less things.

It’s a streamlining of sorts; you reassess where you’re focusing your energy, what you’re spending time on, and who’s getting the majority of your attention.

You stop going to events you don’t care about, and even some that you do.

You use less (but more thoughtful) words.

You pick battles more carefully.

You love fewer, but harder.

Life gets curated.

To celebrate the arrival of my next decade, my gift to myself is to enjoy this process.

To not fight it. To embrace it. Even love it.

To be more open at the top of the funnel, but also more selective about what makes it to the bottom.

To stop giving time and energy to people and projects that don’t give back equally.

To let things go. To keep perspective.

To make more time for learning, doing and creating.

To cook. To read. To write. To yoga.

To build a world around me that I’m proud to be the center of…

One that, hopefully, touches and inspires many others too.

Here’s to a(n awesomely) curated life.

{ 31 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Kristin October 16, 2013 at 8:04 am

Cheers to the next 30…May they bring you much happiness! xoxo

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2 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:12 pm

Thank you, lady! <3

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3 Shannon October 16, 2013 at 8:09 am

Well said, all so true!

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4 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:13 pm

Glad you agree :)

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5 Amy October 16, 2013 at 8:51 am

I hope I’m as good at 30 as you are. Love your attitude, sister! <3

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6 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:14 pm

Awww, you schmoop. Thank you! xo

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7 Stacey October 16, 2013 at 8:56 am

Happy birthday, beautiful! Love this, love you, love the reminder that I needed today.

Now go have a drink – plus one for me because DAMN I miss alcohol! XO

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8 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:14 pm

I had FOUR for you, haha. Miss you, lover!

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9 Chelsea Pearl October 16, 2013 at 9:42 am

Older and wiser has never been better said. Happy birthday, darling!

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10 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:14 pm

You’re going to make me blush. Thank you, lady!

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11 littlemsblogger October 16, 2013 at 9:47 am

Trust me it only gets better as you get older. I’m in my 40′s and within the last year have come to a place where I’m confident with voicing my opinion in regards to my needs. I watch younger friends struggle with stuff like this, but realize as you get older, the more you’re comfortable you are in your own skin, the better your life becomes.

Happy Birthday!

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12 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:15 pm

I love to hear that. There’s so many grand adventures ahead, I can’t wait!

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13 Sashi December 20, 2013 at 1:25 pm

WOW!! Great spirit, I was just surfing after about 4 hrs after my 30th bday, (Now I read it again:), so true many ways… Learning, creating. It is about now that matters! Curation always, hopefully with the right spirit…. Cheers!!

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14 Sashi December 20, 2013 at 1:28 pm

WOW!! Great spirit, surfing about 4 hrs after my 30th bday, (Now I read it again:), so true many ways… Learning, creating. It is about now that matters! Curation always, hopefully with the right spirit…. Cheers!!

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15 Lauren October 16, 2013 at 10:15 am

Love this and love you! Happy Birthday, beautiful girl.

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16 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:15 pm

Love YOU!!! Two days until our lady vacayyyyy!

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17 Marian Schembari October 16, 2013 at 10:24 am

YES! Happy birthday you wonderful woman!

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18 Berrak October 16, 2013 at 10:45 am

Love this! Happy birthday!

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19 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:16 pm

Thank you two times!

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20 Christa October 16, 2013 at 2:10 pm

Hear, hear!

Happy 30th birthday, lady! Have a wonderfully curated day.

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21 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:16 pm

Thank you much! <3

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22 Ankia October 16, 2013 at 8:47 pm

Well said! The 30′s totally kick the 20′s ass :) Happy birthday!! X

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23 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:18 pm

Hell yeah! Bring it :)

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24 Sophie October 17, 2013 at 12:43 am

Very well said. As I approach my late thirties I can hand-on-heart say that I love the she I am now and wouldn’t want to go back to my twenties for all the tea in China. Happy birthday!! x

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25 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:30 pm

Selfishly, I love to hear that, haha. Thank you so much! xo

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26 Sophie October 17, 2013 at 12:43 am

Age not she lol

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27 Jess October 17, 2013 at 2:15 pm

Happy happy happy and I hope to be a part of your 30′s, 40′s, 50′s, rocking chair with gin days forever :)

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28 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:32 pm

Hell yes! We will be so Golden Girls, and I can’t wait. <3

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29 Lesley October 17, 2013 at 5:02 pm

Cheers to you! It all gets better, which I think a lot of people mistake for easier, but the more you know who you are the less “easy” becomes necessary to be content.

xoxo

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30 Rachael October 17, 2013 at 5:33 pm

What an interesting way to think about it. I totally get that. Either way, I’m looking forward to it — whether it actually gets easier OR I just start to enjoy the challenge more! Thanks, lady. xo

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31 PorkStar October 29, 2013 at 1:50 pm

Happy belated birthday, lady. What you say is very true, however I think women have more discipline when it comes to that than men, thus some of us are divorced.

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